Every year, people around the world make the mistake of creating an exhaustive list of New Year’s resolutions – actions they will START doing for Earth’s upcoming path around the sun. You know, things like “I’m going to start going to the gym every day!” or “I’m going to read at least one novel per month!” I am no exception.
Some years I even gave up on creating a list because I knew that I wouldn’t follow through on my plan. All my life, I’ve been an over-achiever – despite even my own parents underestimating my abilities due to my small size – which is why it’s a huge blow to my ego when I fail to attain goals I’ve set for myself. This 2017, I only have one resolution that I know I can achieve, and it’s not a new habit I plan on taking up. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. It’s about what I plan on giving up.
Here’s the ONE thing I’m going to STOP doing this 2017:
I’m going to give up my need to be liked.
As much as I hate to admit it, I can be a doormat. It’s hard for me refuse demands from my friends, family, and colleagues, especially when I feel as if I owe them so much for their kindness. I’m constantly bending over backwards to serve people.
People who don’t appreciate what I’ve done for them.
People who only support me when it benefits them.
People who I show up for and support, but when it’s my turn they have a million excuses ready.
Lately I’ve realized that on top of my responsibilities for work, school, and various charities, I’ve spread myself thin trying to cater to people I will never receive a “thank you” from.
This 2017, my New Year’s resolution is to put my goals and myself first. I’m going to say “No” more often. It may sound selfish, but at the end of the day, if I don’t take care of myself and put my own needs first, I won’t be able to help anyone else. I’ve realized that when I’m not constantly going to great lengths to help others achieve their goals, I have more time to work on my own. I have more time to hone my skills. I have more time for self-care and relaxation. I’m perfectly satisfied with focusing on one task, instead of being all over the map, distributing bits of my time and energy every which way to please others.
Multi-tasking is overrated, anyway.
What are your resolutions for 2017? What are some things you’re leaving in 2016? Share them below!